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My partner sometimes scares me by coming too close, yelling, or swearing at me

My partner makes frightening or intimidating statements to get me to do what he/she wants

My partner has threatened (or implied a threat) to myself or others I care for (including pets)

My partner has intentionally destroyed my things or threatened to do so

I feel coerced by my partner to have sex even when he or she knows I do not want to

I have sex with my partner when I do not want to, to avoid his/her anger, silent treatment, resentment, or other form of "punishment"

My partner does not care about my comfort or experience during sex

I am criticized or devalued by my partner for my sexuality, lack of sexuality, or sexual "performance"

My partner uses what he/she knows I hold sacred in order to get me to do what he/she wants

My partner twists religious doctrines or ideas to try to manipulate me

My partner uses spiritual or religious argument to suggest my feelings are bad or wrong

My partner uses scripture and/or doctrine to try to make me feel bad, sinful, or worthless

My partner has limited or blocked my access to financial resources

My partner controls the money I make or my ability to make money

My partner restricts my ability to pursue my work or educational goals

My partner discourages me from, or makes it difficult for me to pursue work or a career

I feel my partner uses my commitment to the relationship to manipulate me

My partner threatens to (or implies he/she will) leave if I do not do as he/she wants

My partner withholds his/her approval and affection to get me to do what he/she wants

My partner's feelings always or almost always take precedent over mine

My partner gets highly reactive if I disagree with him/her even when I do so respectfully

My ideas or opinions are attacked

My partner regularly interrupts me when I am talking

I don't feel like I can trust my partner